Life is a journey that can get you down or lift you up. Sometimes you know all the answers, sometimes you don’t. However, no matter where you are in that journey there is still a lot that is unwritten so why not enjoy every moment? Hold on to the good times and not let the bad times define you.
Sometimes music can give you that boost of courage that you need.
Beyonce is a singer, dancer, actress, and entertainer that has pushed and promoted the empowerment of women. She understands how important women are to the world we live in and the power we possess. However, its easy to forget that power in the face of overt or covert male dominated cultures, customs, attitudes and norms. So when you need an empowering pick me up, put this on and dance like no ones watching. Remember that we run this world.
I hope every young girl, young lady, and woman knows how beautiful she is. I hope you know your worth. I hope you know you’re precious and a priceless gem, no matter what others say.
The seasons are upon us and unless you are like the Ants, you may still have some shopping to do. So to all of you from all of us here at Jigistylez, we want to wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy Holiday! Play some music, eat, dance, laugh, enjoy, and know we always have you covered for all the gifts you need.
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This easy go to style from Naptural85 is one of my favorites and I have tried it. Granted my twists didn’t look as great as hers, it was a great protective style and it held up. I think this style is perfect with the coming winter and it is easy to undo, moisturize your hair, grease or oil your scalp, and retwist. Check out the video below. Hope you enjoy 🙂
While this is late Happy belated New Year!!!!!! While the weather may or may not be on your side, there is one thing that can always look awesome in any weather, your hair. I recently tried this hairstyle and while it didn’t come out quite as tightly curled it came out loose, but gorgeous. I will be attempting again just to see if I can perfect my technique. Enjoy another awesome video from Naptural85 below.
Below is a post from this blog At the Bar, the blogger K links to the original post from The Artidote. This post highlights exactly what is wrong with our society, this culture of male sensitivity, feelings, and view point being upheld as more important than a woman’s right to exercise her free will. Feel free to share experiences because this needs to stop.
“When I was a freshman, my sister was in eighth grade. There was a boy in two of her periods who would ask her out every single day. (Third and seventh period, if I remember correctly.) All day during third and seventh she would repeatedly tell him no. She didn’t beat around the bush, she didn’t lie and say she was taken – she just said no.
One day, in third period, after being rejected several times, he said; “I have a gun in my locker. If you don’t say yes, I am going to shoot you in seventh.”
She refused again, but right after class she went to the principal’s office and told them what happened. They searched his locker and there was a gun in his backpack.
When he was arrested, some of my sister’s friends (some female, even) told her that she was selfish for saying no so many times. That because of her, the entire school was in jeopardy. That it wouldn’t have killed her to say yes and give it a try, but because she was so mean to him, he lost his temper. Many of her male friends said it was ‘girls like her’ that made all women seem like cock-teases.
Wouldn’t have killed her to say yes? If a man is willing to shoot someone for saying no, what happens to the poor soul who says yes? What happens the first time they disagree? What happens the first time she says she doesn’t want to have sex? That she isn’t in the mood? When they break up?
Years later, when I was a senior, I was the only girl in my Criminal Justice class. The teacher, who used to be a sergeant in the police force, told us a story of something that had happened to a girl he knew when she was in high school. There was a guy who obviously had a crush on her and he made her uncomfortable. One day he finally gathered up the courage to ask her out, and she said no.
The next day, during an assembly, he pulled a gun on her in front of everyone and threatened to kill her if she didn’t date him.
He was tackled to the ground and the gun was taken from him.
When my teacher asked the class who was at fault for the crime, I was the only person who said the boy was. All the other kids in the class (who were all boys) said that the girl was, that if she had said yes he would’ve never lost it and brought a gun and tried to kill her. When my teacher said that they were wrong and that this is what is wrong with society, that whenever a white boy commits a crime it’s someone else’s fault (music, television, video games, the victim) one boy raised his hand and literally said; ‘But if someone were to punch me and I punched him back, who is at fault for the fight? He is, not me. It’s self-defence. She started it, so anything that happens to her is in reaction to her actions .It’s simple cause and effect.’
Even though he spent the rest of the class period ripping into the boys and saying that you are always responsible for your own actions, and that women are allowed to say no and do not have to date them, they left class laughing about how idiotic he was and that he clearly had no idea how much it hurt to be rejected.
This isn’t something that’s rare. This isn’t something that never happens, or that a select group of men feel as if they are so entitled to women that saying no is not only the worst possible thing a woman can do, but is considered a form of “defence” when they commit a crime upon them (whether it be rape or murder-as-a-reaction-towards-rejection).
Girls are being killed for saying no to prom invites. Girls are being killed for saying no to men. They are creating an atmosphere where women are too scared to say no, and the worst part is? They are doing it intentionally. They want society to be that way, they want women to say yes entirely out of fear.Even the boys and men who aren’t showing up to schools with guns are saying; ‘Well, you know, I wouldn’t do that, but you have to admit that if she had just said yes…’