How to Bantu Knot Out- Naptural85

While this is late Happy belated New Year!!!!!! While the weather may or may not be on your side, there is one thing that can always look awesome in any weather, your hair. I recently tried this hairstyle and while it didn’t come out quite as tightly curled it came out loose, but gorgeous. I will be attempting again just to see if I can perfect my technique. Enjoy another awesome video from Naptural85 below.

Masculine Violence Against Women

Below is a post from this blog At the Bar, the blogger K links to the original post from The Artidote. This post highlights exactly what is wrong with our society, this culture of male sensitivity, feelings, and view point being upheld as more important than a woman’s right to exercise her free will. Feel free to share experiences because this needs to stop.

“When I was a freshman, my sister was in eighth grade. There was a boy in two of her periods who would ask her out every single day. (Third and seventh period, if I remember correctly.) All day during third and seventh she would repeatedly tell him no. She didn’t beat around the bush, she didn’t lie and say she was taken – she just said no.

One day, in third period, after being rejected several times, he said; “I have a gun in my locker. If you don’t say yes, I am going to shoot you in seventh.”

She refused again, but right after class she went to the principal’s office and told them what happened. They searched his locker and there was a gun in his backpack.

When he was arrested, some of my sister’s friends (some female, even) told her that she was selfish for saying no so many times. That because of her, the entire school was in jeopardy. That it wouldn’t have killed her to say yes and give it a try, but because she was so mean to him, he lost his temper. Many of her male friends said it was ‘girls like her’ that made all women seem like cock-teases.

Wouldn’t have killed her to say yes? If a man is willing to shoot someone for saying no, what happens to the poor soul who says yes? What happens the first time they disagree? What happens the first time she says she doesn’t want to have sex? That she isn’t in the mood? When they break up?


Years later, when I was a senior, I was the only girl in my Criminal Justice class. The teacher, who used to be a sergeant in the police force, told us a story of something that had happened to a girl he knew when she was in high school. There was a guy who obviously had a crush on her and he made her uncomfortable. One day he finally gathered up the courage to ask her out, and she said no.

The next day, during an assembly, he pulled a gun on her in front of everyone and threatened to kill her if she didn’t date him.

He was tackled to the ground and the gun was taken from him.

When my teacher asked the class who was at fault for the crime, I was the only person who said the boy was. All the other kids in the class (who were all boys) said that the girl was, that if she had said yes he would’ve never lost it and brought a gun and tried to kill her. When my teacher said that they were wrong and that this is what is wrong with society, that whenever a white boy commits a crime it’s someone else’s fault (music, television, video games, the victim) one boy raised his hand and literally said; ‘But if someone were to punch me and I punched him back, who is at fault for the fight? He is, not me. It’s self-defence. She started it, so anything that happens to her is in reaction to her actions .It’s simple cause and effect.’

Even though he spent the rest of the class period ripping into the boys and saying that you are always responsible for your own actions, and that women are allowed to say no and do not have to date them, they left class laughing about how idiotic he was and that he clearly had no idea how much it hurt to be rejected.

This isn’t something that’s rare. This isn’t something that never happens, or that a select group of men feel as if they are so entitled to women that saying no is not only the worst possible thing a woman can do, but is considered a form of “defence” when they commit a crime upon them (whether it be rape or murder-as-a-reaction-towards-rejection).

Girls are being killed for saying no to prom invites. Girls are being killed for saying no to men. They are creating an atmosphere where women are too scared to say no, and the worst part is? They are doing it intentionally. They want society to be that way, they want women to say yes entirely out of fear.Even the boys and men who aren’t showing up to schools with guns are saying; ‘Well, you know, I wouldn’t do that, but you have to admit that if she had just said yes…’

3 Ways My Parents Unintentionally Taught Me That My Consent Didn’t Matter

This an article I came across and after reading it, it made me ask one question: What are we teaching our girls? Are we teaching them their voice and bodies matter or are we teaching them that they are not valuable? Keep that question in mind as you read this article. Please share, discuss, and review.

“This, instead, is an article about you and about me and about the legacies that we pass on. This is an article about our culture.

This is an article about a culture that doesn’t respect women’s boundaries, a culture that can’t take “no” for an answer, a culture that buries women’s sexuality in guilt and shame. This is about a culture that, imperceptibly, seeps its values into the minds and hearts of well-meaning parents until that culture’s most awful beliefs about women come flying out of the mouths of the ones that love us most.

This is an article about rape culture – and about how my parents taught it to me throughout my entire life, never knowing its toxicity.”

You can read the entire article here Everyday Feminism

Happy Easter!!!!!!

For many Easter is welcomed-because of the Easter egg hunts, the nice weather, the pretty dresses and sandal combinations, the blooming of flowers and plants, to spending time outdoors and so on. However, for others Easter to us is the celebration of the Lord Jesus Christ, the day he trampled over death, the day he established his unbreakable kingdom; his resurrection. I am so thankful that today is a day to celebrate the greatness of the King of Kings. Have a blessed Easter everyone.

Happy Easter Quotes Christian

Photo from: HappyEasterJesus

My Natural Sistas-Curly Twist Out Tutorial: Heart-Shaped Hair for Valentine’s Day

Hair is a big deal, especially for special occasions, and Valentine’s Day is no different. Whether you want to make your spouse, significant other, or crush say wow, your hair will be a large part of it along with some chic Jigistylez eyewear. The link below is a great hair style for any day of the week and the upcoming holiday. A nice twist out always brings a nice pop to your outfit. Check it out and enjoy.

My Natural Sistas-Curly Twist Out Tutorial: Heart-Shaped Hair for Valentine’s Day

Naptural85- The Confetti Hair Bun

While I am posting for Valentine’s Day, but this type of cute and fun style can be used for any party event and they greatest thing is you can play around with it. Naptural85 is one of my favorite natural hair Youtubers because she is so funky and outside the box and I have growing in my natural hair journey watching her. So enjoy this video, linked below, adopt it, create your own spin, and so on, but enjoy the creativity and get festive.

Naptural85- The Confetti Hair Bun

 

DIY Valentine Day Ideas

Unsure about what to get your valentine or how to ask your valentine out? Money tight and you just don’t have enough to get an extravagant gift? Well we got you covered. While Valentine’s Day is more than two weeks away, you can never be too prepared. We at Jigistylez know the importance of showing love to those you care about, so we will be linking a few videos we feel are great gifts for this affectionate holiday, without breaking your pockets. First video up is by Youtuber Jessica Reid, step by step instructions with beautiful presentation. Check out the video below and enjoy. Don’t forget we got you covered.